Why the heck don't people talk?????There are so many things that can be solved just by a single open conversation,then y is that people choose the other way i.e. "the silence" insulting the age-old concept of silence with the not so synonymous terms like "patience"???
I really can't digest this fact since I believe in talking and straightening things out.I am forever ready to talk and in fact urge the person concerned to talk but the wish to be stubborn and silent wins over my attempts.Be it a mistake ,a communication gap or plain refusal to explain or justify,everything ends the same way -IN SILENCE!.Justifying your actions or giving an explanation is purely a person's personal choice so this I can definitely understand but even this can be stated in simple words like "I DONT WANT TO TALK" .But no,instead its always left to me to read a person's mind and try to figure out whether there is a need to talk or not.If yes then take the initiative,if no then go to hell.Now I really don't expect this to be the other way round but I can at the least expect some cooperation, right!!!How can a person ever let go of a long term relationship and a wonderful one at that, be in it any name a friend,a relative, a sibling or whatever by just refusing to talk and and keeping the issues on hold and wait for the right time to pop up?Isn't it really worth the effort or is it sheer fear of facing yourself while facing the situation that stops a person from talking!
I have failed big time in trying to understand this behavior and also in trying to accept it as being embedded in one's nature.If its waiting for the right time that is given as a reason then again I would like to know how do u know when the right time comes????If I get a breakthrough in this case I am sure a lot many things will be solved maybe just in a hour's time.Maybe keeping things simple doesn't work or rather its the complications that excites more!Curiosity kills and this time it has definitely taken a toll over my dear little brain!
I really can't digest this fact since I believe in talking and straightening things out.I am forever ready to talk and in fact urge the person concerned to talk but the wish to be stubborn and silent wins over my attempts.Be it a mistake ,a communication gap or plain refusal to explain or justify,everything ends the same way -IN SILENCE!.Justifying your actions or giving an explanation is purely a person's personal choice so this I can definitely understand but even this can be stated in simple words like "I DONT WANT TO TALK" .But no,instead its always left to me to read a person's mind and try to figure out whether there is a need to talk or not.If yes then take the initiative,if no then go to hell.Now I really don't expect this to be the other way round but I can at the least expect some cooperation, right!!!How can a person ever let go of a long term relationship and a wonderful one at that, be in it any name a friend,a relative, a sibling or whatever by just refusing to talk and and keeping the issues on hold and wait for the right time to pop up?Isn't it really worth the effort or is it sheer fear of facing yourself while facing the situation that stops a person from talking!
I have failed big time in trying to understand this behavior and also in trying to accept it as being embedded in one's nature.If its waiting for the right time that is given as a reason then again I would like to know how do u know when the right time comes????If I get a breakthrough in this case I am sure a lot many things will be solved maybe just in a hour's time.Maybe keeping things simple doesn't work or rather its the complications that excites more!Curiosity kills and this time it has definitely taken a toll over my dear little brain!
gud one dibzzi!!:)
ReplyDeleteyup indeed a good one...ya nothing is there such that one can`t solve it..hmmm...
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